Birth "Control"

Before you get your panties in a wad and start posting nasty comments... please realize that I am thinking aloud and I am not even sure how I feel about this subject!!!

A good friend of mine pointed out that the second word in birth control is control. I had never really thought about breaking down the term and analyzing it. We hear so much about how God is in control over everything and that we should not hold on to any hidden "closets."

Interesting that we talk so much about how we need to put God in control of our finances, relationships and our purpose and yet when it comes to having children, we want to schedule them to fit in our time frame.

-We don't have enough money
-We are not in the right place emotionally
-We need some more time to be together
-We don't have a big enough place
-I need to lose some weight
-We want the kids to be 2-3 years apart
-We can only handle one child (2,3,4,5,6...)

The list can go on forever and I am sure that you can add some of your own that you have said in the past. Why is it that we can't handle the idea that God is in control? Many people have gone off of birth control and not had children for years. Is it just because the sperm was not capable of meeting the egg? No, it is because God knows the best time for you to have a child.

But wait, other people have had sex one time and have gotten pregnant immediately. A friend of mine said that when it comes down to it, if you have sex without protection you are going to get pregnant... it's just science.

So, by thinking this way, we are saying that God is not in control...science is! Is God surprised when someone gets pregnant? We might not think that it is an ideal situation but God knows and designs every conception for a purpose. Who are we to say that God does not know best?

Another friend of mine said that if God does not specifically tell you to have a child... you are not doing anything wrong. The Bible says to "Be fruitful and multiply" Gen 1:22.
My question was, why are we waiting for God tell us to have children rather than listening for God in case He says to wait? God's command in the Bible should be the command to go by... bottom line! Although we should be listening for further instructions just in case He does change the rules for specific individuals.

Also, there are no references to birth control in any way (wait for awhile, don't have sex in marriage etc.) that I know of in the Bible. If you know of something please share. If this is a correct statement, we are regularly doing something that is not portrayed in our manual for life.

By controlling our births we are saying that we think we know the best time to have children better than God does.

Seems like a pretty lofty claim...